7DAY Breakthrough Healing, Style
7DAY Breakthrough Healing Challenge: Day 6
God wants to use what you went through…
Today’s Prayer
God we thank you for the power and the wisdom to guard our heart, discern the tricks of the enemy and the power to say no. We pray for the courage to stand up for what we deserve, to fight for what you promised us and to walk alone if we have to. Your grace is sufficient for us, and we ask that you continue to strengthen us to grow, glow and go. In the name of Jesus, Amen!
OVERVIEW
Today’s Message
It’s not a secret that most of the emotional battles we endure are either people related or thought related. What’s in our head or how people behave in our life, influences how we feel — and by triggering emotional responses. Let’s be clear, I’m not saying that salvation means we aren’t emotional and that we don’t have emotional breakdowns and struggles.
What I’m saying is, when emotions control us or when we aren’t able to step back and look at what or why we’re being controlled by negative or unhealthy emotions, we become prisoners in our own life. Nobody feels good all the time, nobody is immune to heartbreak and hurt, but we have the power to decide what to do about it.
Think about your emotional condition right now, or when you felt emotionally depleted or defeated. Now, ask yourself, what was driving the feeling? Was it a thought, a person or an unenforced boundary? The bible tells us that, “There is nothing new under the sun”; whatever we’re dealing with, or will, it’s not a secret, it’s not new or uncommon, and it’s not beyond our control to manage.
We’ve all been hurt by somebody, we’ve all been disrespected, we’ve all had a disappointment or a loss. We’ve all had a struggle or an issue that activated negative emotions. It’s not just what happens to us, it’s also what happens in us that triggers our emotional response. It’s how it effects us that causes our emotional reaction. Remember, negative, unhealthy and destructive emotions are beliefs that reside in our soul and compete with our truth.
Listen, there was a time when I was a complete and total people pleaser. The trip about people pleasing is that it has less to do with people than it does with self. The need to please people at the expense of my own wellbeing was birthed from a childhood seed that became an adult tree in my soul. We all have some trees in our emotions that come from negative seeds. What I found out about trying to be a people pleaser, is that people who require your sanity or require you to abandon yourself to please them are not people that you should tolerate or allow in your life. Can you imagine somebody liking you as long as you don’t like yourself or as long as you don’t respect yourself? The devil is a liar!
Your issue might not be mine but we all have something that reveals the seeds that turned into negative trees in our emotional garden. I say trees because our thoughts and behavior, our emotional triggers and reactions, are the leaves on our tree. We can’t heal emotions just by picking the leaves on our tree. The leaves are just symptoms of the problem, they’re not the problem or the root itself.
To heal and to own powerful emotions, we have to identify and dig up the roots of emotional trees that are unhealthy. If you have a relationship that struggles because of a lack of communication, intimacy or respect, you can best believe that those are leaves on an unhealthy emotional tree. If you can’t be somebody without having to be with somebody, you can best believe that’s a leaf thought from a negative self-image tree. If you are willing to let people run over you, if you are willing to allow yourself to be walked on, disrespected or, feel guilty when you stand up for yourself, that’s a leaf on a lack of self-love tree. If you’re counting yourself out, if you can’t see your potential beyond the problem, if you’re not able rise up and lead your thoughts to victory, that’s a leaf from a tree of low self-esteem.
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak” (Matthew 26:41)
You are anointed to walk in victory. You are appointed to be the head and not the tail. You have been predestined for greatness, abundance, joy, power, peace, victory. Your authentic self is not who your emotions say you are but who your faith says you are. Your ability to soar is not dictated by what happened to you but by God’s grace to soar despite what happened to you. You have visions to decree, dreams to fulfill, generational curses to break, business to start and legacy to live, you cannot fulfill the prophetic plan for your life unless you own the responsibility to dig up roots that hinder your resurrection power!
Power is not empowered unless and until we own it. Unless or until we honor it and embrace the work that respects and protects it. Once I got tired of being sick and tired of letting people have rights without responsibilities, I rose up in the spirit of the Lord and laid down some boundaries that could not be crossed…and I found the grace, courage and strength to feel good about losing people who didn’t fit into my healthy life. I found out that when you take ownership of your emotional wellbeing, emotional health, emotional work, you will change…”Once I was blind but now I see.“
When you start to change, some old people and thoughts won’t have access to your life anymore. When you start to see the value in peace, the value in sanity, the value in walking in victory and relying on God’s word to think through the issues in life, and digging up trees that don’t belong in your garden, everything changes. Is it easy? No. Can we dig up trees and own emotional power without work? No.
The Apostle Paul said, “Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me” (Philippians 3:12). This is a journey, this is a lifestyle, this is intentional work that manifests the life that we deserve. What are the leaves on your tree — thoughts and behavior that are telling you something is wrong, something needs to change, something needs to be fixed, something needs to be removed or healed so that God will get the glory for your story?
When God tells us, “You will know them by their fruit,” that’s not just for other people, that’s also for ourselves. The bible declares, “Examine yourselves to see whether you are in the faith; test yourselves. Do you not realize that Christ Jesus is in you–unless, of course, you fail the test?” (2 Corinthians 13:5). We can’t be afraid to examine the leaves, the fruit, the behavior or the thoughts that are causing problems in our life. Continuously. And then, when we see that the results we’re getting don’t line up with God’s plans for our life, we have to be willing to dig up that tree. Without guilt, hesitation or fear.
Protect your best life by not allowing yourself to accept less than what you deserve and by telling yourself the truth about your leaves. The truth will set and keep us free!
Today’s Challenge
Read the article(s) that’s right for you and explore ways that you can apply today’s message to important areas in your life.
- 9 Things Emotionally Healthy People Do
- Top 10 Tips For Finding A Compaitable Partner
- Do You Have Realistic Expectations For Your Partner
- Break Free From Your Need To Be Codependent
- Protecting Emotional Boundaries
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